As I thought about writing this post, I encountered some inner resistance. The voice went, “Oh gosh, put this out there and you’ll be classified as some “out there” woman who has lost her ground and entered the “airy fairy” psychic stratosphere.”

Sorry. Not so. The story I’m about to tell you is truthful and factual. It happened just as I tell it.  I did not seek out this experience, it just happened. And the lessons it taught me about wisdom, a quiet mind and beautiful feelings are priceless.

This is a story about wisdom and synchronicity, coincidences that are meaningful to you. It speaks to an understanding that there is an intelligent energy in this universe that guides you. It points the way to order and stability all the time. Listening for it is especially important after a life-shattering loss.

The year is 2002: three years after my first husband died in a motor vehicle accident.  I am a very busy woman. My WisdomSources business is growing. I’m practicing psychotherapy full-time. And, I’m raising a daughter who happens to be a student athlete, making me a “volleyball” and “basketball” Mom.

In that description, read: I don’t have time to think about a love relationship!
Yes, I was sometimes a little lonely, but mostly I was too occupied to care. At some level, I really doubted there would ever be another man in my life.

Did I want to have a relationship?  Sometimes yes, sometimes no.  I had become quite satisfied and happy with my single life.

One of the projects keeping me busy at the time was that I was attempting to help organize a large group of holisitic health practitioners in the mid-Ohio Valley so that they could move their agenda forward.  I resonate with complementary health practices that respect and honor the inseparability of body, mind and spirit.

That led me to meet Ellen, an intuitive, who practices palmistry and other metaphysical arts.

Ellen did not actually join the Healing Arts group because she didn’t want to slow down attempts to integrate with local medical and spiritual organizations.

Nonetheless, she suggested that she and I meet so that she could help me understand more about her work and her understanding of metaphysical phenomenon.

On a sultry, hazy day in August, we met at a Bob Evans in Marietta...and really, the rest is history.

Ellen told me that she believed in destiny, but also believed that free will can always override it.  As she talked, a lot of what she said just made common sense to me.  And, she came across as a grounded, caring and loving woman.

But on to the story.  Ellen asked to see my hands.  She studied them for a short while.  And then she began talking about my past, my present and my future. The accuracy of her understanding about my past stunned me and gave me a “heads up” to listen with an open mind to what she said about the future.

Ellen told me that I would soon meet (in five or six months, she thought) a man who I would marry.  She said he would be a medical doctor teaching a nontraditional understanding of mind and body.  She told me we would have loads of fun together and that we would teach each other a great deal...over a long span of years.  She gave me additional delicious (and spicy!) information about what it would be like when I met him!

Hearing all this was fun!  But it was what was happening inside me that I was paying attention to.  Somehow I KNEW Ellen spoke the truth. I had experienced other flashes in that time period, coming from within me, suggesting that a relationship was in the offing. What Ellen said was an invitation to TRUST what I already had a sense of.

I felt hope, excitement, curiosity and anticipation.  Nice feelings. Beautiful feelings.

Another sweet note: several days after meeting Ellen, while eating at a Chinese restaurant, I opened a fortune cookie to read this note: “The love of your life will appear in front of you unexpectedly!” How funny!

Six months later, on Valentine’s Day of 2003, I met my husband (a psychiatrist) while I was speaking on The Power of Unconditional Love in Healing at the West Virginia University Medical School for the Grand Rounds program of the Department of Integrative Medicine (unfortunately, now defunct.)

Bill had seen an announcement of my talk and had decided he was too busy to attend. On his way to lunch, he saw a poster outside the door advertising that I was in the process of speaking.  He decided to step in “for a moment.”

Our first date was in March, we got engaged in May and were married in September. It is a delicious relationship!

Really, this is not an endorsement of intuitives.  There are some, like Ellen, who clearly have a gift and an enlightened spiritual understanding.  They, like Ellen, will tell you they are tapping into something that is available to all of us.

As I’ve often said when I teach about intuition and synchronicity, I think consulting intuitives can be like trying to buy fast food “take out” intuition.  The quality of what you get depends a lot on who is cooking up what you order.  If you want, you can order up your own home-cooked, trustworthy meal.

This story does speak to the power of beautiful feelings, the power of a quiet mind and the gift of wisdom.

Hearing Ellen and FEELING the connection to my own wisdom was inspiring and joyful.  That sense of being inwardly connected stayed with me and I felt a wonderful, peaceful buoyancy in the ensuing months. I didn’t think AT ALL about what I had to do to attract someone.  Simply, I stayed in the now, lived in a beautiful feeling and life UNFOLDED.

I knew a greater TRUST in my intuitive wisdom. I felt receptive to men and experienced a strong sense of WONDER about when one would appear in my life.

People told me that I was RADIANT with happiness. Small wonder that Bill, a very healthy, radiant individual himself, was attracted to that!